I had never heard of a family bed

when I was growing up, I shared a room with my sister. if I woke up from a bad dream or a thunderstorm (or the occassional earthquake), I can only remember a few times that I actually walked across the house and got into bed with my parents. most of the times, my sister just told me everything was fine, and to go back to sleep. and so I did.

fast forward to 2011. I have 3 children who are 11, 7 and 3. these three kids have all gone through phases where they have slept more in bed with me than in their own beds. we're going through one of those phases again.

the age of 3 is really a bitch. you are potty-trained, you can speak your mind, you can get dressed and undressed. you can feed yourself and quite often help yourself to some unusual snacks from the kitchen. but you're still only 3 and you still get scared and need your Momma and Daddy.

this began with my first son. he was our only child at the time, and after about 5 months of him magically appearing in our bed around 3AM, I decided to just make up a little sleeping bag and pillow spot each night on the floor for him. (he kicks...trust me, the floor was all nice and cozy enough for him) this went on for a few more months and then all of a sudden, he was staying in his room all night and at some point, I stopped setting out the sleeping bag and pillow.

my daughter went through it as well. she went through a period of sleepwalking and scared the crap out of me countless times. she was more content in her own room, but even nowadays, she'll come in and snuggle every now and then. she likes her sleep.

and now we're at our youngest son. he is 3. and he is in our bed almost every night. he will not creep in quietly and lay down on a sleeping bag and pillow. he picks up the bedding and carries it onto the bed with him. how many times have I awoken to the feeling of intense heat and suffication only to realize that I am buried underneath a Clifford the Big Red Dog sleeping bag and 4 pillows? he sleeps horizontally on our bed. I always get the feet. in my side or back.

now I have read a lot about attachment parenting and the "family bed". I hear Brad Pitt and Anji have a big bed just for this purpose. in theory, the family bed sounds nice. everyone is comforted, everyone is closeby, you rest together as a family. you bond.

what I rarely hear is that the Mom doesn't really get that much sleep in the situation. I am constantly removing toes from my armpit or trying to find a comfy position to sleep in with a 5 inch strip of space on the side of the bed. without falling off. my husband is sleeping fine, his snores tell me he reaches deep REM everynight. I kind of hate him for that.

my son will be 4 in April. perhaps age 4 will make him decide that his perfectly nice bed with bedding he picked out all by himself is an OK place to sleep again. either that or I need to invest in some of that Hydrolyze stuff I hear advertised for "intense dark undereye circles".

Happy Groundhog Day! 2011

well, hello there! Happy Groundhog Day. one of the most useless and senseless American holidays ever created.
Groundhog Day in Florida means nothing. it's just another day in February. we're not expecting any blizzards here, and school is open. (sorry to those of you up North experiencing the blizzard right now. I find it all fascinating to watch. I would die if I lived north of say...Atlanta. I would have no idea how to cope and survive a blizzard. so, I'll just save you all that experience and stay put in the land of sunshine and oranges.)
OK, I am going to start writing again. I promise. maybe. if I remember.

Happy Father's Day :)

so, even though I may complain about my husband. a lot. he is a good Daddy.



and that makes up for a lot.

a Momma's Best Friend....

well, I know that many, many of you have already known about and used Netflix. I knew about it, but only just recently signed up. and wow, in the past week I have watched 2 movies that I really wanted to see when they were released, but never got around to it.

The Time Traveler's Wife- awesome book! great movie. I thought they did a really good job of explaining what all was happening and I loved that little girl who played Alba.

Seven Pounds- wow, another awesome performance by Will Smith! this movie had me as a sobbing wreck at the end. really good movie, and Rosario Dawson was so good in this as well.

next up in queue are Where The Wild Things Are and The Lovely Bones

Hurricane Season 2010

well, it's here. it actually officially started on June 1, but don't worry...you haven't missed anything. it's hot as hell and has been raining everyday around 3PM. normal June in Florida.

Chief Long-Range Meteorologist and Hurricane Forecaster Joe Bastardi(yes, his last name is Bastard + i, poor guy)has published his predictions.....

Bastardi is forecasting seven landfalls. Five will be hurricanes, and two or three of the hurricanes will be major landfalls for the U.S.

He is calling for 16 to 18 tropical storms in total, 15 of which would be in the western Atlantic or Gulf of Mexico, and therefore a threat to land.

In a typical season, there are about 11 named storms, of which two to three impact the coast of the United States.

so basically, this is the same prediction that is issued every flipping year. if you are new to FL or any of the other coastal states, than you freak out and go buy every can of tuna and soup you can find and have at least 12 flashlights in your hurricane supplies. if you're like me, and you've lived here for 30+ years, you make sure you take a quick peek at the weather channel every now and then and go about life as usual.

what would a hurricane do to the oil splill in the Gulf? that could be grosser than it is already if if churned all of that oil up and coated the whole coast in those yucky oil blobs.